On Women’s Writings #poetic prose #feminism #literature

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On Women’s Writings

I do not like women’s writings. They talk too much about their bodies.

Notice the negative connotation attributed to the relationship body/femininity construed as an obstacle to the evolution of the spirit?

This man’s feeble mind confined women to lands of sensuality, magic, swamps, and mud: in short, to categories related to the carnal. Women can only be aware of tumultuous feelings that erupt inside their bodies. Nothing else. There was an implicit juxtaposition between body/femininity and spirit/masculinity, the latter understood as superior.

I navigated the incredible writings of women like Virginia Woolf, George Sand, Marguerite Yourcenar, and many others.

I became a mirror. I produce images of the spirit and of the body.

I play with them. I absorb them. I devour them.

I am the same with the richness of the intellect and the opulence of feelings.

My body is the alphabet of a language spoken at the exact hour when the sunset rains its cherry blossoms over the laughter of children.  

I love the frenzy of the 1920s. Oh, les années folles

I am the quintessence of that which you will always desire.

I am a woman.

I am not made in your image.

You are made in mine.

Happy New Year to all my followers. May 2021 bring you happiness and success. May you be forever loved.
Gabriela

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213 thoughts on “On Women’s Writings #poetic prose #feminism #literature

      1. I feel better. But I do not understand why my ankle is still swelling. It’s been more than a month and a half.

      2. You ok now?
        My other ankle took a year to heal but the swelling went down pretty soon. It was very weak and painful but it did not swell so much. This swelling is driving me crazy too.

      3. I hear you. And you have to rest more so it could go dow.
        I’m better, can walk for 15, 20 min without crutches, so it’s gonna definitely take more months to heal completely.

      4. I am so glad you can walk without crutches, Bo. Even 20 minutes help. Wishing you the best. Love and hugs to everyone.

  1. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Bravo Gabriela, we have been spoonfed this masculine propaganda for far too long. Just so well said 🙏❤️🙏

    1. Hi Ingrid. Thank you so much. I hope everything is well and you guys are having plenty of fun.
      xoxoxo

      1. My pleasure Ingrid. I hope you know how much I treasure our friendship.
        Happy New Year.

  2. Happy New Year to you! Nice post! Actually several people told me the same thing–I don’t like women’s writing, women’s jokes, women’s political views. Or even worse, what women have to say bores me. It’s not only men who say these things, but also women say the same thing. Of course I live in an immigrant circle which is especially conservative. At first I was so annoyed that I stopped communicating. However this strategy left me feeling unkind and unconnected. Then I started to prepare retorts that are not too sharp since sharpness cannot do any good, only disrupting future communication. A mild nudge is the strategy I’ve adopted. Another obstacle to my advocating for women’s writing is that most of the people in the immigrant circle don’t have time to read. Everybody is overworked. One thing I thought possible is asking them to follow my post which I think they will, but then again my very mild posts–in my humble opinion– can be viewed as sharp criticism of this and that. My truthful depiction of immigrants’ life can be viewed as a non-positive portrayal of a dream they are chasing. So I balked and only told very few friends, the number in lower single digit. However I am confident that my effort will produce result, albeit too slow to make me feel good about it.

    1. I am so sorry for my late reply. Happy New Year and thank you from my heart for your comment and for sharing your thoughts with me.
      “but also women say the same thing.” Indeed. It’s actually what impedes women’s progress most. I pointed that out in another comment.
      “At first I was so annoyed that I stopped communicating. However this strategy left me feeling unkind and unconnected.” I am really sorry to hear about that. It is hard to stand up for what’s right without having a tons of bricks thrown at you.
      “Another obstacle to my advocating for women’s writing is that most of the people in the immigrant circle don’t have time to read. Everybody is overworked.” This is something that I understand. Most people are overwhelmed with work these days.
      “My truthful depiction of immigrants’ life can be viewed as a non-positive portrayal of a dream they are chasing.” Generally people love to hear “nice” things. They know it is bad but sometimes they take pleasure in killing the messenger.
      “However I am confident that my effort will produce result, albeit too slow to make me feel good about it.” It will indeed. Things change slowly but they do change.
      Sending you love. Good luck with everything.
      xoxo

    1. Thank you so much Lucy. Your appreciation means a lot to me. Sending you plenty of love.
      xoxoxo..

  3. Nice piece Gabriela. I’m happy you see that women are not made in the image of men. There would be a lot of ugly women around. I prefer women talk about their bodies, rather than women trying to get me to talk about my feelings. I Know — once a man, always a man.

    1. Lol Timothy. You are too much! You are one of the most wonderful persons I’ve ever met. Everyone is lucky to have you around. Maya and I are sending hugs to everyone. If Maya would be there she would try to have you talking about your feelings 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for your beautiful words my dearest Rene. You brighten my day. Happy New Year to you too.
      xoxoxo

  4. Gabriella, my wonderful relationships with my late husband and my significant other have made me forget that such negative attitudes toward women still exist. I did experience gender bias growing up and in my early working life. The only march I ever participated in was for passage of the Equal Rights Amendment.

    Thank you for this beautiful post which validates the expression of women’s thoughts, opinions, and feelings. It is important to remember that negative stereotypes and biases still exist and to be vigilant against them. Meanwhile, the election of Kamela Harris as the new vice president of the US fills me with joy! Happy New Year!

    1. Hi Cheryl, thank you so much for reading and for sharing your experience. You are a gem. Patriarchy is powerful. It is structural and unfortunately in some cases sustained and advanced by women. Some women seek validation from men at any costs. This is one of the many things that really bothers me.
      On another note, you have no idea what most of us face in the US academia. The data is out for anyone to see (Chronicle of Higher Education) so I will leave it at that.
      I am happy that Kamala is the Vice-President elect but discrimination and implicit biases do not change over night. We have a long way to go. We will get there.
      Have a beautiful 2021!!!!
      xoxoxo

      1. Yes, I think some of our recent troubles are a backlash to Obama’s presidency. There may be a similar backlash to Kamala Harris for both race and gender.

        My late husband taught health law at FIU for several years. He was a quadriplegic, and I think his disability was acommodated well, but he disliked university politics. I taught elementary and middle school, so I have not experienced the patriarchal university culture first-hand. Have a great weekend, Gabriela! <3

  5. I read and within a line or two relate or move on, who wrote it matters not – though I’ll admit I’m more drawn to women and the things they/you do with words – and truth be told I’ve always preferred the company of women to men, it’s that relatability thing again, perhaps beneath all bodies it’s souls true souls see. All the best for 2021 G, may you soon be walking carefree.

    1. Hello Eric, and thank you for your thoughtful comment. I learned something new about you although I’ve always suspected it was there.
      By the way Great Britain is not part of the EU anymore. How does it feel?

      1. I thought you would feel free. It is interesting to see how Great Britain is going to evolve from here. Now you guys are free to cut your own trade deals and do many other things. I will say this: I am worried about the border with Ireland. Most people in Brussels are.
        Wishing you and yours a beautiful New Year. I hope you get the vaccine soon.
        Yours.

      2. I can’t speak for anyone as in England I’ve yet to hear anyone discuss Ireland – apart from the knee-jerk press that is – I sense we see our history as ours and we’ve no intention of letting slip hard won co-existence – as for Brussels I can only imagine their true worry is who else to squeeze for money now they don’t have ours, Ireland will has served the EU’s purpose, a sphere of influence for them to cling on to, we’ll let them have that belief. I genuinely believe the UK will ultimately remain united and prosper as will our land neighbour, Ireland. I’ll sign off, optimistically!

      3. “as for Brussels I can only imagine their true worry is who else to squeeze for money now they don’t have ours” Eric, last time I checked you guys spent more from the EU budget than contributed to. I know Boris’ bus said otherwise.
        “I genuinely believe the UK will ultimately remain united and prosper as will our land neighbour, Ireland. I’ll sign off, optimistically!”
        I am cautiously optimistic too Eric.
        Sending you a hug.

    1. Happy New Year Andrew! Thank you for your support all along. Any new book coming out this year?

      1. Can’t say for this year, but last year a number of anthologies featuring my work. You can find most of them on my Amazon page (which I also created last year).

      2. You’re welcome. If you want, I can post a link to the Amazon page. Or you can go to my site’s Poetry and Short Stories pages; whichever you prefer.

      3. Thank you Andrew. Looking forward to get the anthologies. Have a productive 2021.

  6. Such powerful words by a powerful poet and woman we all admire and are grateful for to shed light on this subject that is critical to enlighten and empower others. Thank you Gabriella. I loved this line “My body is the alphabet of a language spoken at the exact hour when the sunset rains its cherry blossoms over the laughter of children”.
    You are a gift and I wish you blessings for a wonderful year! ❤️ Cindy

    1. Oh, Cindy, I am humbled beyond words. Thank you for your magnificent comment. I am not sure I deserve the praise but certainly it makes me happy. Please know that I admire you and your work tremendously. You are fabulous.
      I kind of love that line too 🙂
      May you have a magical year filled with love and happiness. May you shine. May you continue to help others shine. May YOU be YOU.
      xoxoxo

      1. It is very deserving Gabriella! You are most welcome for sure and I’m so glad it makes you happy! I do know and I am always so appreciative of you time and support of my work as well. That is so touching! Thank you!
        It’s a great line!!!
        I am off to a great start and I trust you are as well! ❤️🤗

      2. Thank you again Cindy. “I am off to a great start” I am glad to hear that you are off to a great start. I’ll make my start great too. See, you inspire me.
        Love
        G.

      3. Cindy, you are a sweetheart. My foot does not behave. But it will.
        Enjoy your day.
        xoxo

      1. Ok!

        Its really simple reproductive biology.

        X = female

        Y = male

        Hence

        X + X = girl

        X + Y = boy

        Women always contribute the X chromosome while men contribute either the X or Y chromosome which determines the sex of the child.

        Looking at this way:

        X = female nature

        Y = male nature

        It is biologically clear that men have a feminine side and women do not have a masculine side.

        It is actually men who create life while women are designed to nurture and give birth to new life.

  7. Wow, a beautiful poem from you for the start of this year. Loved the poem and the last few lines is just amazing! 👏👏👏 I love your writings because of the selection of your words to create a poem. ❤️❤️❤️

    Wishing you a prosperous New Year G. 🎂😍

    1. Thank you so much my dear. I am really happy you enjoyed the writing and very grateful for every word you wrote. I appreciate our friendship. It honors me.
      Sending you love and wishes for a 2021 filled with happiness and love.
      xoxoxo

    1. David, my most sincere thanks for your comment.
      “I wonder why any of us need to consider ourselves made in the image of another?” I guess one answer would be because some of us are taught so.
      David I do appreciate your comments and your support more that you would ever know. Thank you again.
      Shabbat shalom.

      1. 🙂 You are very sweet, Gabriela.

        Aren’t those of us who are taught so being taught that human beings were made in the image of God? Is there something else that people are being taught that I’m not familiar with? Or are you suggesting that some people associate male’ness with God?

        <3
        David

      2. David, I did not mean anything literally. If you think about that would be crazy. It was a metaphor.

        As for the more serious issues that you bring up, yes, we are made in the image of God, but according to the Genesis, Eve was created by God (Yahweh) by taking her from the rib of Adam. She was created to be Adam’s companion. Am I missing something here?

        However, again, I did not mean anything literally and certainly I did not mean to hurt anyone. That will be counter productive.

        I am very familiar with Mircea Eliade’s writings, one of the best, if not the best historian of religions. I learned a lot by reading him. He was Department Head at University of Chicago, taught at Sorbonne, etc
        His work on the history of religions is monumental (some of his youth work is controversial, but that’s a separate issue. We can talk about if you want. I deeply disagree with what he wrote in his youth). However, he made it clear that all major religions subordinate women to men and no serious scholar dared to challenge this assertion. That is not to say that I do not welcome other interpretations. I really do.

        Hugs.
        G.

      3. G.,

        However, again, I did not mean anything literally and certainly I did not mean to hurt anyone. That will be counter productive.

        Just to be clear, I wasn’t hurt in the slightest bit – just curious to understand your message. I’m quite the feminist myself – you can ask my wife 🙂

        However, he made it clear that all major religions subordinate women to men and no serious scholar dared to challenge this assertion.

        To the best of my knowledge, this is 100% true, Gabriela – I don’t disagree in the slightest.

        But what confused me was that you wrote that one human being was created in the image of another human being, which is not a traditional Abrahamic perspective. The rib thing – yeah – according to the Torah, Eve was created to be Adam’s partner.

        Although – for what it’s worth – there are actually two creation stories in the Torah, and one of them suggests that the original “Adam” was a “they” rather than a “him” – https://jewishnews.timesofisrael.com/the-bible-says-what-adam-is-male-and-female-in-the-first-creation-story/

      4. David, again the image was a metaphor. Now that you pointed out perhaps it was a “Freudian” slip. Was I thinking that man is God? Was I influenced by some gnostic currents when I wrote this piece? I don’t really know. It’s fiction.
        “Although – for what it’s worth – there are actually two creation stories in the Torah, and one of them suggests that the original “Adam” was a “they” rather than a “him” –”
        Well, that’s actually very interesting. It’s fascinating. I do have some knowledge with respect to the androgynous aspect of Adam, but let me take a look at the link and think about.

  8. I love that…”My body is the alphabet of a language spoken at the exact hour when the sunset rains its cherry blossoms over the laughter of children”

    Wishing you all a blissful new year. Hope that joy and success follow you in every sector of life.

    1. Cristian, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your beautiful comment and for everything you have done for me. I still have to return your kindness.
      I am thrilled you like that phrase.
      Wishing you a fabulous 2021! May you be forever happy.

  9. What woman won’t appreciate these words. So true my friend and so beautifully expressed dear Button.

    “My body is the alphabet of a language spoken at the exact hour when the sunset rains its cherry blossoms over the laughter of children.”

    I love these lines. You made some excellent points in this piece. Simply wonderful work dearest Button.

    Sending you lots of love and hugs xoxoxoxo
    Honeybun

    1. My dearest honeybun,
      I can assure you that there are women who may not appreciate these words. Anyway sweetheart thank you for your comment for being here. I am glad you liked that line.
      Thank you for the love and the hugs. Right back to you.
      xoxoxo…

      1. I so often think of why women don’t support, love and unite more often. I love and enjoy women and we could be such a force to reckon with if we just supported one another more. I understood and loved each word. Your piece was brilliant. Sending layers of satin in royal blue that have been touch by all the amazing women from now and throughout history. In the center is a kiss from Esther who saved her entire race of people because of her great wisdom, faith and strength. The fairies and mermaids will deliver them along with my love. 🦋🤗💕❤️😘honeybun

      2. Good afternoon honeybun.
        “I so often think of why women don’t support, love and unite more often.” Because they are “taught” – social signaling – that they can get ahead when they cater to centers of power. Presently the political, social, and economic power structures are dominated by males. So here you have it in a nut shell.

        Oh, thank you for your kind words on my work. You are such a sweetheart. I got the royal blue and the kiss. They are magical. And there is plenty of love delivered by fairies and mermaids. Thank you!!!!!

        Sending you blessings, love and hugs.
        May this evening shower you with miracles.
        xoxoxoxo
        G (Button)

      3. Thank you sweet Button. You are right of course. I stood my ground when I was in the work place but there was always a price.
        Your work is brave and beautiful Button. I have had a wonderful day today, it was my birthday. Thank you for all the wonderful gifts. I am so grateful I was able to retire very early. I don’t think I could take how bad things are now. People just continue to expect more and more from their employees.
        Love you,
        Honeybun 🤗💕❤️🦋

      4. Happy Birthday 🎉🎁🎈🎂 my dearest honeybun. May you be forever loved and happy. May you be forever blessed and successful. May all your dreams come true. And as the song goes may you stay forever young.

        Love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🥰

      5. Oh this is so sweet dear Button. Thank you for all your extremely kind wishes my dear friend. May you be blessed this year in more ways than you could ever imagine.
        With much love,
        Honeybun
        💕❤️❤️❤️❤️🥂😘

      6. Thank you so much honeybun. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

      7. Love you too. Sending blessings and joy your way 🎉🎈🥰🎂❤️🌹

  10. “Women can only be aware of tumultuous feelings that erupt inside their bodies….I am a woman….I am not made in your image….You are made in mine.”
    This is simply so beautifully written….quite deep, meaningful, intense & the only truth….sending you love….Happy New Year ✨ ❤️

    1. Aw.. Navin, thank you so much. My souls is yours. Happy New Year. May 2021 bring you happiness and fulfill all your dreams.
      Sending you plenty of love.
      xoxo

      1. Thank you for the heart and thank you for the chocolate. Thank you for being you, Navin.
        Sending roses and hugs.

  11. This piece inspires thought. Among its imagery are so many little pictures fusing themselves together. In much the same way does the accompanying art do the same thing!

    1. Hannah, I am humbled by your comment. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
      A Happy 2021 to you and to those you love.
      Gabriela

  12. Dear Gabriela

    I really enjoyed reading this article. Thanks! The sad and wrong vision of women in my country, or other countries where I lived and worked, is deeply rooted in our traditions, and this tradition is teached to children as soon as they have been born. And the children are growing up with this view. This is a deep lie present in every moment of life. And is the origin of the inequality of opportunities. This sociocultural lie takes away something fundamental from girls/women: freedom, life. And in this macho society, the greatest human achievements I have seen are magnificent work done by women.

    Happy New Year. One more year of justice, equal opportunities, chances and responsibilities.

    Joseph

    1. Dear Joseph,
      Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your thoughtful comment. Indeed it is tradition and tradition is very difficult to change. Your praise for women’s work means a lot. I am deeply grateful for your words. Happy New Year to you too. As you said may 2021 be a year of social justice and opportunities for everyone.
      Thank you once again.
      Sincerely
      Gabriela

    1. Thank you so much Flavio. May 2021 bring happiness and success to you and to those you love.

    1. Thank you so much Blanca. Have a wonderful 2021. 🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹

    1. Diana, you humbled me beyond words. Thank you so much.
      And again, welcome back. You were missed.
      xoxo

  13. OH SWEET LORD!!! Ok:

    “My body is the alphabet of a language spoken at the exact hour when the sunset rains its cherry blossoms over the laughter of children.”

    I MEAN!!! Shoot me to the moon….out of the stratosphere with the JOY and WONDER of those words!!! LOVE all these amazing words, dear Gariela!!! Walking away smiling saying yes, Yes, YES!!! 🤗💖😊!!!

    1. Katy, you are excitement, art, goodness, happiness, and beauty. The wonder is in the way you read my words.
      THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU.
      I’m not sending you anywhere. I am keeping you here. I need your smiles and your hugs.
      Love
      G.

      1. Oh my gosh….You are an absolute boomerang of Love and kindness!!! Thank YOU. Thank YOU. THANK YOU as well, Beautiful!!!! I joyfully stay in Your most wonderful light! Sending Love right back! 💖💖💖

      2. Your wonderful words Katy! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Here is to our friendship 🥂🌹❤️🥰🎈🤗

    1. Thank you so much for your beautiful words Yassy. It humbles me to know that I can inspire you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    1. Thank you so much my dearest Charlie. It’s wonderful to hear from you. Happy New Year 🎈🎆🎊 I hope everything is well with you.

  14. That was very nice. I often wonder why women relegate themselves to the interpretations of others? You do realize, however, that your indifference is hot? We love it when you’ve got no time for our admiration. We daydream about your accomplishments, your organization, and your multitasking.

    1. Hello Mario,
      My most sincere thanks for your comment.
      ” I often wonder why women relegate themselves to the interpretations of others? ” Perhaps because for centuries women have depended on others for survival. From a socio-historical perspective it looks like “learned behavior.”
      “You do realize, however, that your indifference is hot?” Haha! I personally do not. Multitasking requires my full attention 🙂
      “We daydream about your accomplishments, your organization, and your multitasking.” That’s really empowering. I’ve never known that. I hope more women will read your comment and feel flattered.
      Have a wonderful afternoon, Mario.
      Happy 2021 to you.

  15. This is one expressive and revolutionary piece. I truly appreciate your thoughts. Quite a power you pack with your words. Really good.
    I hope you have a wonderful year.
    May I ask what you meant by
    “I love the frenzy of the 1920s?”

    1. My dearest friend,

      Thank you so much for your comment and your kind words. Always a sweetheart. May you have a wonderful year too.
      In the interest of time here is what it says on line “The term Années folles (“crazy years” in French) refers to the decade of the 1920s in France. It was coined to describe the rich social, artistic, and cultural collaborations of the period. The same period is also referred to as the Roaring Twenties or the Jazz Age in the United States.” I am not a big fan of Wikipedia explanations, but it’s better than me writing an essay about that period right here. The term refers to the period between WWI and WWII when people relaxed and immersed themselves (particularly the rich) in arts: paintings, music, poetry, dancing… were ruling the day. Paris was the center of the universe attracting artists from all over the world. I hope this helps.

      Sending you plenty of love Shanyu.
      xoxo

      1. My absolute pleasure friend. I understand it much better now. Thank you so very much! I totally see the reference now. Have a fantastic day.

  16. And the other superstition about women writing part of their life in their stories… Don’t know when these kind of stereotypes will end.

  17. Whatever the attitude about women,you are absolutely right.most impressive lines”I am not made in your image;you are made in mine..”marvellous ,dear G!!🌹and A wishful Happy New Year with love🌹

    1. My dear Aeruna, you can click on the name of the painter under the picture and it will tell you more.

  18. Happy and Healthy New Year to You too 🙂
    Loved the way you weaved the image of a woman in simple words. Rightly portrayed her being.

    1. Thank you so much for the wonderful wishes and the kind words. I hope you know how much they mean to me. Happy New Year sweetheart. I hope everything is well.
      xoxoxo

      1. My pleasure to read your work though I read them late always 🙂 Everything is going good. Hope you are doing awesome.
        xoxoxoxo

      2. Thank you so much sweetheart. I am ok. Catching up with some work. I hope you are ok too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

      3. Great to know. Pleasure is mine always. 🙂
        I am adjusting to the new surroundings. Thank you so much kindly 🙂 (Hearts)

      4. My pleasure hon. Take care ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  19. So much depth in this…no wonder a woman is an epitome of sacrifice, strength and power…she is a strength of a soul…a very powerful post…happy new year Gabriella…

    1. Aw… thank you so much for your wonderful words and your beautiful wishes. Happy New Year 🎊🎈🎂🎉

  20. Not all women writers talk about their bodies in their writings. Some of the deepest thinkers have been women. Rather anyone noticed it or not, but men talks about their bodies through activities, their strength and masculine things. Misogyny undermines men as well as women.

    1. My most sincere thanks for your comment.
      “Not all women writers talk about their bodies in their writings.” Indeed that was the point of my post.
      Have a beautiful week ahead.

  21. “I am the quintessence of that which you will always desire.

    I am a woman.

    I am not made in your image.

    You are made in mine.”

    That gave me goosebumps. Well done!

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