Feminine Submissiveness #prose #short prose #excerpt #book

Feminine sexual scars: real, invented, and in some cases only dreamed. Wounds exposed in plain view in order to obtain something in exchange. If not justice, then sympathy. If not sympathy, then the attention of a certain male prototype.

A desperation to direct the masculine imagination toward the submissive feminine with its painful blows; blows exacerbated by the brutality of our patriarchal society. Yet something more was added to that:  female purple skin calling for the asperity of males’ touches, abandon, suggested nudity, swollen lips, tons of adjectives filled with a sickening excess of sweetness.

I remember him saying.

An entire arsenal of attraction built on wounds that should be sanctified not used to incite maleness. Those women hang their sexual lesions like paintings on walls for the sole purpose of giving males glimpses under their underwear.

C’mon. You know it.

I did not. However, he was a man of high intellect. It was difficult to go against him. I had to wait. I had to outmaneuver him.

So, I played my feminine submissive part. Add some madness to that and I am quite sure I looked like Ophelia running from room to room dressed in black negligees incapable of understanding my own distress.  What a nightmare.

Was he right?

 

excerpt from my manuscript Remembrance of Love (working title)
My poetry collection Passions: Love Poems and Other Writings is available on Amazon here .
Passions featured in San Francisco Book Review
Passions featured in Manhattan Book Review.

@short-prose-fiction (Gabriela Marie Milton)

128 thoughts on “Feminine Submissiveness #prose #short prose #excerpt #book

  1. Feminine sexual scars: real, invented, and in some cases only dreamed.
    I wrote a couple of novels. sitting on my hard drive, about that very thing. About how it drove a young woman during an age of complete role confusion in the 70s and 80s. I won’t advertise on your site but there’s a few excerpts up. Nice work, there. Not overdone.

      1. Your writing is spare but never compromised or lacking. There is a real skill in finding the right word, or a few words as opposed to splattering the page with words in an attempt to convey. You manage to find the right words in a sea of choices. I’m a fan of anyone who says more with less.

  2. It’s like we have to use our bodies and our brains to outthink the monster. The monster being the oppressive subconscious belief that tells us that we have to tie our self-worth to another persons assessment of us as were the meeting partners. I looked this : “… dressed in black negligees incapable of understanding my own distress.” I want that on a T-shirt.

    1. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. I am changing my negligee with a T-shirt 🙂
      Seriously I am deeply grateful for your words
      “The monster being the oppressive subconscious belief that tells us that we have to tie our self-worth to another persons assessment of us ”
      Lots of love
      Gabriela

    2. Sorry. Please edit a section of my reply to read “ … another person’s assessment of us as mating partners. I loved this …” Siri is getting on my nerves 😩

    1. Aw… thank you Rene. It means a lot to me you think so. Sending hugs and flowers your way my dear.
      xoxoxo…

  3. Powerful writing, Gabriela. Gender roles are so complex, tied up with instinct, culture, psychology, love, identity, dominance. As society addresses the most visible wounds, most women know the scars run much deeper. Beautiful, poetic prose, my friend. <3

    1. Diana, thank you so much for the praise and for being here.
      “Gender roles are so complex, tied up with instinct, culture, psychology, love, identity, dominance.” I can’t agree more.
      Wishing you a beautiful week ahead and thank you again for your support.
      xoxo

  4. A work of art and so appropriately written now with all that has happened this year.

    Yes, men who abuse would like to think

    “Those women hang their sexual lesions like paintings on walls for the sole purpose of giving males glimpses under their underwear.”

    Your words are brilliant, expressing not only those women whose self esteems have been ravaged by both visible and invisible scars, but the way women have to be careful to out wit the abuser when discovered.

    “Sickening excess of sweetness”. Great phrase.

    One might want to consider a granny gown with ruffles around the neck when expecting a “sleep over”.

    Very powerful and provocative Button. Great piece.
    Hugs and love coming your way. ❤️💕🤗Joni

    1. My dearest honeybun

      I am very sorry for my late reply. I deeply apologize.
      First, I hope you are feeling better. Back pains can be debilitating.

      Second, you are right. There are plenty of excuses abusers use to justify their behavior. The classic one is “blame the victim.” This is what happens in this little excerpt. The book will take things further and touch upon the behavior of women who know that someone is an abuser and yet continue to support and seek validation from that person. Bottom line there are many ills in our society and honestly most people are not even aware of them.

      “so appropriately written now with all that has happened this year” Sweetheart, I don’t even know how to describe what is happening this year. I am speechless.

      “One might want to consider a granny gown with ruffles around the neck when expecting a “sleep over” I think you can guess my opinion on this one.

      Joni, thank you so much for your kind words and praise. You are such a talented and intelligent woman.

      Sending you love, hugs, and the blessings of the autumn. I am born in the fall and fall marks for me new beginnings. It is also a season when I am grateful for all the good things in my life. Please know I am very grateful for your friendship and support.
      Yours
      G (Button)

      1. Thank you my dearest button for this heartfelt reply. Your writings are always close to my heart.

        The battered women syndrome is real and your poem also touched on this. I knew a beautiful woman who was beaten so often and I did not know until I saw her fall one day in the work place. She was covered in bruises and then I saw that she had tried to cover a black eye too. He did eventually almost kill her.
        So many truths in this piece my friend.

        I love the fall as well. I am a Capricorn. Perhaps this coming year will bring God’s Graces on our world. We are sisters in the heart my friend.

        Sending wishes of happiness, blessings, and everything you wish for that will bless your already gracious heart my friend.

        Yours always,
        (J) honeybun
        💖🤗💕❤️😘💫

      2. “The battered women syndrome is real and your poem also touched on this.” You are right honeybun. This is actually an important point of the writing.
        “I knew a beautiful woman who was beaten so often and I did not know until I saw her fall one day in the work place. She was covered in bruises and then I saw that she had tried to cover a black eye too. He did eventually almost kill her.” So sorry to hear about Joni. That is so tragic. A woman needs a lot of courage to disentangle herself from a toxic relationship. I hope she is well now.

        “I love the fall as well. I am a Capricorn. Perhaps this coming year will bring God’s Graces on our world. We are sisters in the heart my friend.” Oh, honeybun my dear.. I am opening the fall season – I am a Libra – and you are closing it as a Capricorn. Between our birthdays the beauty of autumn runs. You are ruled by Saturn. No easy task. But you are a winner sweetheart. Wins don’t fall in you lap. They are well deserved. You are a champion.
        “We are sisters in the heart my friend.” We are. And it’s more than that. You are ruled by Saturn. That’s heavy. I am ruled by Venus and that appears to be easy. The goddess of love and beauty bestowing her gifts upon me… not so fast Gabriela.. the second ruler of Libra is Saturn…..

        “Perhaps this coming year will bring God’s Graces on our world.” Let’s hope so. Let’s hope that God will bring more grace in our personal lives and on the entire world. But Joni, you and I still need to work hard.. it’s Saturn 🙂
        Love you honeybun.
        xoxo

  5. This is so poignant and relevant to our times: we are still living in a patriarchal world where we can fall into the trap of thinking we need this kind of approval. But it doesn’t have to be that way, and the power of your words proves that!

  6. Powerful write. All is not well in the world. There is no oneness yet. It is a patriarchal society but not all men are like that. They live as equal in our society. Around the world there is strong patriarchal societies. It is unfortunate but we can push this back with unity.

    1. Hi Joseph, thank you so much for your comment and for being here. First, I am under distress. I don’t seem to be able to like or comment on your posts anymore. I have no idea why. It appears it worked a few minutes ago. I think I was able to leave a comment on one of your posts. I hope you got it.
      Second: “but not all men are like that.” Joseph, I am not claiming that all men are like that. In fact most of us are tributaries to patriarchy regardless of our gender. We need to be aware of this. And you are right: we can push that back with unity.
      I hope everything is well with you. Now, did you get my comment?

      1. Yes i got your comment. You posted on my site. Try unfollowing and then following agai. This seems to work. Its a wordpress thing when they do upgrades or when we go private. This happened to me recently as well

  7. Wow, Gabriella! quite a powerful delivery speaking so much to the patriarchal soiciety we live in and the struggle of woman to find power beyond their sexual luring. Caught in this trap of scares inside and out and the whirling around like Ophelia in black lingerie” in distress and confusion. Was he right? Excellent delivery of capturing scenes in a movie.. ❤️👏👏👏Cindy

    1. Hello my dearest Cindy,
      Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. I am thrilled you liked this excerpt.
      “Excellent delivery of capturing scenes in a movie.” This line brighten my evening.
      Sending you plenty of love
      xoxoxo…

      1. My pleasure Cindy. Have a wonderful rest my dear and may your tomorrow be fabulous.
        xoxo

  8. I love the raw tone and unabridged candor you use to deliver the power held within these wounds. Told in the first person, it allows the writer to circumvent speculation and innuendo and bring internal forces to bear on the words. We are shown the tip of the iceberg, but can sense the depth and breadth of the emotions being conveyed. The unabashed questioning of societal archetypes leads us to how we see our own place in the world. Beautifully written and masterfully expressed!

    1. My Dearest Brad,
      Your comment is divine. I am grateful to you for every word and so thrilled that you liked the excerpt.
      “The unabashed questioning of societal archetypes leads us to how we see our own place in the world. Beautifully written and masterfully expressed!” Those lines are really humbling Brad. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
      Have a beutiful evening.
      xoxoxo.

  9. I’ve only just discovered your work today and have not been able to stop reading. This one, in particular, resonated with me. I’ve shared it as well.
    As always, powerful delivery and wonderfully written ❤️✨

    1. Thank you so much my dear for your beautiful words and for sharing my work. I am thrilled you enjoy my posts.
      xoxo..

  10. Well Sweet Lord. That’s a slam dunk and a half, beautiful Gabriela. You know, a dear friend of mine and I, who have known each other for over 30 years (we met when we were 21) were talking the other day. I wouldn’t say broken heartedly….I dunno…..just kindof grieving our youth and how we felt we had to be/look/behave to be loved. It’s no one’s fault really…there was no male guidance in either of our lives and when You turn to society for answers about what a woman is and what makes a woman lovable…well…for me that’s what Your words just described. And more times than I could ever count I quite literally did feel like Ophelia…knowing I seemed mad and desperately just wanting to be loved and so trying to figure things out but pretty much a fragile mess. I have such compassion for Young women coming into age now. Sometimes it seems even worse….the messages….perhaps not. There is much strength about…Brilliant Women living outloud every which way one turns and wonderous poets such as Yourself to map the way. And no! He was not right!!! Great intellect could not possibly fathom the answers to what he was pondering…..his thoughts don’t even begin to scratch the surface of all the whys of women. He’s not even close. WOW! I realize this may be an entirely fictitious piece based on that AMAZING art….but SEE?!!! Your poetry/words dive in effortlessly to the deepest part of me! Sending HUGE hugs Your way!!! Thank You, Gabriela!!! 🤗❤️😊

    1. My fabulous Katy!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for being here.

      “when You turn to society for answers about what a woman is and what makes a woman lovable…well…for me that’s what Your words just described. And more times than I could ever count I quite literally did feel like Ophelia…knowing I seemed mad and desperately just wanting to be loved and so trying to figure things out but pretty much a fragile mess. ” Thank you so much for sharing Katy. You are a wonderful and talented woman. You are lovable and I am sure you were always lovable. You have a magnificent heart. You are a gem. I am humbled by every word you wrote. THANK YOU!!!!!

      “He was not right!!! Great intellect could not possibly fathom the answers to what he was pondering” KATY I wish you were right. But, just think about. Implicit biases are something that we all have. New research shows we are wired for that which scares me. There are multiple attacks on this kind of research – mostly with respect to the methodology that was used – but it is out there (at least in the academia). However, patriarchy is a social construction. People, regardless of their IQ, get “socialized” in certain patterns of behavior. They are taught to think and behave in a certain way. The stronger the structural constrains, the less likely that the moment of awakening will come. It’s the eternal battle between agency and structure; between the actor and the environment in which she or he lives.

      “Your poetry/words dive in effortlessly to the deepest part of me! Sending HUGE hugs Your way!!! Thank You, Gabriela!!! ” AW… THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. You always bring sunshine in my life.
      LOVE AND PLENTY OF HUGS MY DEAREST KATY.
      xoxoxo…

      1. You HAVE to be one of the kindest people God ever made, sweet Gabriela!!! Thank You for You crazy wonderful, loving words! I reckon I’ve had my moments. 😅 I was laughing after I sent that comment, thinking, “Oh Lord! Poor Gabriela! That was wordy as hell!!!” 🤣

        And yes…I agree…I know….I’ve seen those studies and heard such here and there. It’s certainly reflected all over the planet. And You are so RIGHT! I catch myself all the time having knee jerk reactions to people or certain situations for no other reason than my wiring/conditioning/stories I carry. My favorite thing about getting older is that it’s very easy for me to spot this and just let it move on it’s way. I know it’s not me, got nothing to do with the present moment and most likely is not even true. Ghosts whispering. Ghosts of the machine. I can’t help but truly believe with everything that makes me whatever I am that we ALL can transcend….and do in some sparkly moments that will ultimately lace themselves together. I see it all around, here and there….glimmers of stepping out of our social/cultural/throughout all time human conditionings that we carry. It HAS to happen!!! Says this teeny corner of Your peanut gallery!!! 😃💕🤗

        And by the way…YOU ARE SOOOO SMART it’s crazy! My jaw is always on the floor at Your beautiful poetry….but wow…what You’ve written here; Your intellect is just as passionate and well-honed as Your artistic side…that’s AMAZING! What a wonderful teacher You must be! Wow!!!

        As for your last words…I must say again it’s always truly my pleasure!!! I’m sending Love and plenty of hugs right back Your way!!! Have a wonderful weekend!!! And that’s an order! 😅❤️🌀💕😊

      2. Katy, my dear, how can I thank you for your wonderful reply? I have no words. I find no words. All I find is the love you put into my heart. I am sending you more love and plenty of hugs.
        xoxoxo

      3. Thank you for the love and the butterflies 🦋 Katy. Sending you 🎶❤️🤗🥰

  11. Oh do I relate, Gabriela. Your words so powerfully evoked to paint a picture of what our male orientated society has done to woman. Your gift to find the perfect phrasing of words that leaves the reader both emotionally and sensually involved is phenomenal. SO enjoyed this and boy could I tell you tales from my own life as I fought against the unfairness in so many ways being a woman. When we find ourselves, that is when we find the courage and strength to stand up and demand, “I will no longer be treated with anything less then respect and acceptance.”

    1. My dearest Amy,
      “Your words so powerfully evoked to paint a picture of what our male orientated society has done to woman” I hope my words could do this. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this line.
      ” SO enjoyed this and boy could I tell you tales from my own life as I fought against the unfairness in so many ways being a woman. ” Thank you for sharing Amy. Most of us did and still do.
      “When we find ourselves, that is when we find the courage and strength to stand up and demand, “I will no longer be treated with anything less then respect and acceptance.” I cannot agree more with you. Finding ourselves is the key.

      “Your gift to find the perfect phrasing of words that leaves the reader both emotionally and sensually involved is phenomenal” You took my breath away with these words. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
      Sending fresh roses, love, and peace your way
      xoxoxo…

      1. Thank you but you know I think you are the great one. I hope you are well too 🌸🌹

  12. Such powerful lines, Gabriela 💚 Great job shining light on these scars, visible and invisible.
    I love how with just a few words, you open a plethora of new horizons for our understanding. 🌸

    1. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your beautiful comment sweetheart. You made my afternoon.
      xoxoxo….

    1. Thank you so much Victoria. Yes, it is. Only if I can finish sometime in the future.
      Good luck with everything and many thanks for your support.
      xoxo

    1. Sweetheart, thank you so much for your kindness and your beautiful words. They mean a lot to me.
      Sending hugs
      G.

  13. These words feel like hot iron against the skin, a rod made out of sharp thorns summoning the wrong to court.

  14. I would love to read the whole book. I am really hooked to such topics. Conversations with males upon the same gives a different perspective and opens the mind to newer dimensions.

    1. Hello my dearest Kritika. I am glad that you are interested in such topics. Hopefully the book will be out in spring.
      I hope everything is going well with you sweetheart.
      xoxoxo

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